Here’s
my teacher !
I always though there cannot be a better teacher than my husband..He has made my see situations in a different light always.But here I see
a new teacher in my life who has not only changed me but changed me soooo much…
he is none other than my 18 months old baby , Siddhanth !
Everybody knows that marriage changes you but motherhood
transforms you..In my case, motherhood has made my rediscover life !
There are a infinite stuff my son teaches me in a day from
being prompt and active irrespective of ur health and status; one needs to be always
ready to jump from your couch the moment my son is up to some tricks. Even an
object kept at a 4 ft high can be approachable in the weirdest possible way (
he can access it anyhow ) ..One cannot afford to neglect the tinniest of
objects lying on the floor as the other minute it could be straight in hands to
mouth.Social etiquettes !! Ghosh !! what is it suppose to be ? The other day I found
myself picking up a piece of food from the floor and consuming…thanks to my
son..i call it ‘ Sid-Effect ‘.
You taught me to be OMNIPRESENT- That’s a word
reserved for God but na na…as a mother you need to be Omnipresent..You need to
be cooking in the kitchen with your eyeballs glued to the chotu wherever he is.
Yes, a mother can manage that..you taught me that masala overcooked doesn’t seem
that bad..maybe we are now use to having every dish overcooked in the process
of cooking and eyeing you.
You taught me to live the PRESENT – He is 100% focused
on what he does for the moment.. If he finds something funny, he laughs to the
fullest..If he is cranky, he is the crankiest and if he is yelling, he ensures
that the neighbors around are all alert.
He teaches me to enjoy every moment as if the moment lost would be lost forever…He
made me realize the value of the moment.
You taught me that Living Life like a Miracle- We have
been so long on Earth that we take things for granted, to the point that we don’t
even notice them. Siddhanth discovers life every day and is absolutely amazed
by it,as if everything is a miracle – be it the water splash noice when he is
having his bath, the special sound of a dog’s bark..he is fascinated about the
fact that if you drop anything , it falls straight down ..why don’t think float
somewhere in the air instead of falling down ? Thanks to my baby, iam learning
to look life in a fascinating way.
You taught me to stretch my patience- During the
initial 3 months of delivery when I thought changing diapers in the midst of my
sound sleep and feeding was the most diffuclt period and I need to have
patience to pull myself through this phase..little did I know that what I was
going through is nothing compared to the patience you grow when your baby
starts walking on his little feet…Right from the phase of crawling to teething where
you see the baby putting every other object in his mouth to the phase when he
starts walking on his own and that’s not over, every day in the growth spurt,
you see challenges.. Even when you’re exhausted and at your limit, you can
always do more and you discover you are much stronger and your patience JUST
GROWS by leaps and bounds.
Social Etiquettes oh !! do they exists for a Mother of a Toddler ? I secretly wish if society could
allow the mothers of toddlers to do away with all the social norms be it..Frankly
speaking I really don’t care now.I see myself reading aloud poems and songs in a place surrounded by
strangers ..I really don’t care if people are amused at my behavior because the
mission in hand is to get the attention of my baby to make him feed a spoon of
a porridge.The noisier am the greater chance of my chotu consuming the entire
stuff.
By the way, have you ever tried grabbing things from your
toes ? It is total fun, and of done everyday, it will be very useful particularly
when you a holding your baby.
Planning & Strategizing doesn’t work – Initial few days
when I was keeping a track of Siddhanth’s schedule to learn what and how he
reacts, consumes, spills and …realized how waste it was.
Planning your moves anticipating that you know your baby is
silly. Just when I think I’ve got things figured out… he changes again. One day
he likes yoghurt, the next day he doesn’t. One day he wants solid food, the
next 2 days he only wants liquid diet..I learned to JUST go with the flow..because
constant struggles to get him do what a pediatrician tells you can lead you
nowhere..He taught me to just let him do what he wants and things just work out
in the flow.
You cannot time bound your activities- My kid taught me that I can
never be on time even though am planning a event days in advance.The last
minute tantrums or my baby napping at an odd hour would just not make me reach
anywhere on time..So he taught me the importance of having a buffer 1 hr if the
situation is critical.
Give without expectations- Never before had I realized the
happiness I get from just Giving. Giving for the sake of helping someone else,
knowing that what I give him matters. It fills my heart with joy.
You are responsible for your behavior- He taught me to be good
all the time. He taught me how important it is to act myself the way I want him
to learn.He is observing me , my attitude and my behavior. Even more, he copies
me. When something unexpected happens, he looks at me with big eyes, checks my
reaction and copies my behavior. If I am relaxed, he is relaxed. If I am
anxious, he becomes really agitated immediately. Abusing is now a history ! He
taught me to project myself the right way no matter what the situation or
circumstances is… I feel like am always on the limelight !
Real love is far beyond some silly fights and arguments – The biggest
lesson he taught me is irrespective of the pastings he gets , the other moment
he forgets and hugs me making me realize that real love exists much beyond the
silly fights and arguments you have with your loved ones.It makes you forget
every differences and move on after all, you never want to lose the person you
love so much.
My darling there’s lot more..am learning every moment..am
learning every day.
Love you Loads Tuddu,
Your Amma
